Category: Jamie’s Creative Life

How I went out for a coffee and came home with three kittens (first installment)

Coffee with Danette

Yesterday I had a date at a lovely local coffee shop with my dear friend Danette Relic. I wanted her artistic input on a project, plus we were overdue for a good catch-up. About an hour before we met, I had reason to ask if we could switch our local to the bakery across the street. Little did I know this started the wheels of an adventure in motion!

After a rich visit full of inspiration and sharing, Danette and I headed out, both of us needing to pop by the art store. On the way a sign in front of a fruit market caught my eye.

free kittens

I don’t know why but I felt that sign was meant for me. I looked at Danette, “Is it bad for me to go look?” She said, “Is it ever bad to go look at kittens?” We stepped into the store.

When I asked about the kittens, the woman stocking the shelves asked if I knew much about cats. I explained that I had lost my cat of 20-years just two weeks ago to the day. She smiled at me, “Oh, then you know.”

She took us around front and opened the door to the upstairs apartment, explaining that the tenants had left it in an awful state and though they had come back for the mom of this brood, they had left the kittens behind. She was worried about them and had been bringing food but she needed to find them a good home.

The smell in the place was awful and got worse as we climbed up the stairs. There was a plastic bag full of empty mickeys of liquor. The couches were overturned and the rugs stained beyond repair. And yet this roughed-up place had charm: French doors to the living room, a skylight in the kitchen, an old clawfoot tub – and kittens.

Danette and I had a peek and saw one terrified grey kitten hiding in the back corner behind the fridge. In the other corner, all I could see was a flash of eyes.

The landlord told us about the difficult tenants, about why she couldn’t take the cats herself, about how she didn’t want to give them to just anybody. She glanced at me and said to Danette, “I look at her, and I know she’s going to love them.”

I called home.

I got through to my sister Shannon and gave her a quick rundown. And though my husband couldn’t hear the details there was something in our voices that had him respond, “Oh, no.”

Shannon handed over the phone. In the midst of a day of meetings, deliveries and repairs, Justin listened to me say, “I want to bring these three abandoned kittens home.” With the weight of the decision on his hands, Justin said, “How can I say no?”

As we left and I headed home to get the cat carrier, Danette reminded me that just over a week ago she texted me from the streetcar that she had had a vision of me with a grey cat.

Clearly this adventure was meant to be.

The Grey Kitten

Read what happened next.

Art Day: Watercolour, Shapes & A Moose Mascot

Preparing for Art Day

Every Sunday is Art Day at our house! This week we dove into a Creativebug watercolour techniques class taught by Yao Cheng. We were excited to pull out the supplies and play!

Art Day Watercolour Basic Techniques

We experimented with circles and triangles, cool colours and warm colours.

 Art Day Moose Mascot

We chose a mascot for Art Day and new instantly this would become a tradition!

Art Day Table TopWe spent hours chatting, creating and having fun with colour.

Art Day Watercolour Play

Lastly, we experimented, exploring what we’d learned in our own way.

Pastel Moose Mascot

Clearly Moose approves.

Braving the Road to Belonging

On this week’s Behind the Scenes I shared some of this video of an amazing night out at choir, where we took to the busy Toronto streets and sang our hearts out! You could feel everyone come alive as they braved sharing their voices publicly, feeling bold, wild, even transgressive, and doing it together.

In that golden moment, I delighted in choir.

And I almost hadn’t gone. This time and many times. In fact, it took me years to arrive at this moment.

First, I didn’t go to choir because I didn’t want to intrude on something I thought was my sister-in-law’s thing.

Then, I didn’t go because even though my friends all wanted to go, they never seemed to be able to.

Finally, last summer a friend and I made it to choir – and loved it. Then she moved.

Then another friend joined me – and loved it. But was too busy to go again.

And another friend joined me – and loved it. And kept going without me.

People I’d told about it went – and loved it.  And never invited me to join them.

I started to feel lonely and sad and awkward about going.

But here’s what I know, both as someone who has participated in and as someone who has led experiences:

Exciting, beautiful, unique opportunities do not last forever!

So this winter I decided to go, no matter what.  I made it as easy for myself as I could. I set up a bag with my choir stuff ready to grab and go. I told my interested friends I was going every week and they had an open invitation to join me. I planned choir-night dinners so they were simple and I could get out of the house quickly. And then I went.

I went by myself.

I went in the dark.

I went in the cold.

I went.

I didn’t think about it. I just put on my boots and went.

It turned out going by myself was fine, sometimes even great. I found a surprising calm in doing this thing that was for me all by myself. No pressure to do anything other than just be there and sing. Sweet.

Sometimes my heart burst open with missing my Mom. She sang in many choirs over many years. I find myself wishing she could be with me here, experiencing this, and wishing I could go back in time and join in with her then. My mind wanders to my brother and sisters singing to Mom as she lay dying. In those moments I sing like I’m a raw pulsing nerve but I sing.

And I’ve gone to my dear sweet friend and told her I felt left out and hurt and we shared tears and love and all is well and healed.

And on the night of this video, I went with a friend and met another there. I smiled at people and they smiled back. As we poured onto the street, I hugged another friend I discovered in the crowd. As we stood there on the street, swaying, clapping, singing our hearts out, cars driving by, people walking past or clapping along, I felt at home.

I was with my people. I was doing my thing. I belonged.

Belonging took bravery and effort.

I’m sharing my tender story with you so that you’ll know that. You’ll know that I didn’t walk out the door one night, filled with ease, confidence and excitement, and stroll into a room full of fast friends, raucous laughter and immediate good times.

For this moment to arrive, I had to be willing to be uncomfortable. I had to be vulnerable. I had to be open to the magic that was available and not shut down when it didn’t arrive or took a different form than I expected. I had to show up, again and again.

I’m sharing my story to encourage you to be brave.

Don’t wait until the circumstances are perfect. Step in from wherever you are to what you want to experience.

Grab this moment.

Live fully.

More and more you’ll find you’re right where you belong.

 

First Signs of Spring in the Garden

Garden Guardian

The winter was long and I have been impatiently waiting for the garden to show signs of life. It’s only been about two weeks since there was ice back there! Now every day I’m taking a little tour and yelling out to Justin and Shannon, “Hey, you’ve got to see this. Look! Look!”

Sedum Sr

One of the very first things to show up in the garden this year was Sedum Sr. Last year I went on a rescue mission to get this guy. He’d ended up in the neighbour’s yard after we had our fence replaced. Last summer I snuck my fingers through the fence and gently, gently pulled him back home. He looked a little depleted when I replanted him but clearly he’s come to like his new spot!

Crocus Bud

I’m delighted and perplexed by this crocus bud. Delighted because it’s white, which I love, and it’s the first thing to flower! Perplexed because I didn’t plant any crocuses. Not one. And yet there seem to be quite a few sprouting. Interestingly, I planted quite a few white daffodils… and not one has shown up. I’m beginning to wonder about bulb packaging!

Tree Peony

One of the very first things I planted in the garden was this tree peony. She’s quite a sensitive soul and spectacular too. The first year she unfurled one lone bloom with a single layer of petals. The next year there were three and they were more robust. I am always curious to see what she’s going to do next.

Phlox

The phlox is coming up too. The only way that I remember what or where most of these plants are is to not clear away all the debris in the fall. Otherwise, I’d forever be digging up old plants as I make way for new ones. (I still manage to do that more often than I’d like, ack!)

Bleeding Hearts

Every year these are my absolute favourite sprouts. This white bleeding heart always looks like alien beings stretching out of the soil towards the sun as they come to life.

Unknown Plant

It took a keen eye to notice this tender purple under all that old growth. If I remember correctly, this plant will have a beautiful white and green leaf and tender little purple flowers. I’m going to get out there today and clear the old away.

Tulips

I am so excited to see these tulips coming up. In the fall I planted bulbs for several varieties of white tulips and then covered them with chicken wire held down by rocks, hoping to outwit the squirrels. I know they got few within days of planting and now they are definitely nibbling on the tender shoots but hopefully I’ll get at least a few beautiful flowers.

I love this time of year. Spring is Christmas for gardeners!

No doubt I will soon be starting my #goodmorninggarden series on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook. Join me and see the garden grow!

Art Day: Love & A Trip to the Garden

Art Day Begins

Every Sunday is Art Day at our house. My sister Shannon and I are both taking The Year of the Spark with Carla Sonheim & Lynn Whipple. This week we continued working on a lesson from Carla that we started last week. Using gesso, we had painted a simple, textured piece on wood board. This week, we added colour!

Ever Present Gliter Animals

Of course, the glitter bombed animals looked on, some wondering when they would get a second coat.

Garden Signs of Spring

With this project, we had layers of paint that needed drying and so we took a break out in the garden and discovered: green!!!

Garden Protection Worked

The netting I put down to protect the spring bulbs seems to have worked.

Garden Protector

Or maybe it was the garden guardian that did the trick.

Feeling the LOve

Either way, when I returned to my piece, I was definitely feeling the love!